When it comes to online dating, first messages can prove to be a tricky thing to master. Here are four top tips to get you on your way!
As lovely as it would be, good things don’t just fall into your lap. So unless there happens to be a secret compartment of perfect partners on the floor above you and a conveniently placed hole in your ceiling, meeting someone special just isn’t going to happen by hoping for a fall-in-your-lap miracle.
So are you ready to shed old habits and stale routines? There’s no time like the present – here are five tips to get you started.
1. Be smart with your time.
If you are keen to improve your love life it’s vital that you preserve your time, love and energy for people that actually deserve it. So if you’re investing any of these three into someone who you don’t genuinely see as a future partner, PUT ON THE BREAKS – you’re not getting any closer to your goal of entering into a serious long-term relationship. In fact, any minute that you spend on Mr. or Mrs. Wrong is sucking up the time you should be spending trying to encounter your perfect partner. So be honest with yourself and have the strength to walk away from half-baked relationships – they really aren’t good for you.
2. Venture out on your own.
As counterintuitive as it may be, singles that venture out on their own tend to exude a sense of confidence and self-assuredness; the magic beans to dating glory! So if you genuinely want to improve your love life it’s time to put your nerves aside and purchase that Ticket For One. Going to an event on your own will not only show others that you are comfortable in your own skin but will also allow potentially interested others the opportunity to approach you without feeling threatened by the gaggle of friends you may otherwise bring. There are all sorts of events which could present encounters with partner potentials; art gallery openings, cooking classes, music concerts – follow your passions and you’ll be sure to meet like-minded others.
3. Say YES!
Jim Carrey’s film, “Yes Man”, wasn’t exactly an Oscar contender but it sure did prove this: saying “yes” to invitations throws you onto the path of lots of diverse and interesting people. So fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants and start saying “yes” to invites and offers you may normally turn down – by making changes to your habits and routines you will find yourself in a myriad of new social situations.
4. Let bygones be bygones.
We all have skeletons in our dating closet. What are yours? Maybe you’ve been dumped in your last three relationships. Or your partner cheated on you. Or you cheated on them. Whatever it may be, it’s time to start with a new slate. Never walk into a first date thinking that it’s doomed to end in disaster, that you’re intrinsically unlovable, or that any new partnership will inevitably turn out like a previous one. Instead of viewing potential new partnerships through the lens of past failures, go in with a positive mindset and an open heart – you never know when your luck may change.
5. Press the refresh button.
Forget New Year’s Resolutions, the time to make the change is right now. So put dating out of your mind for a moment and ask yourself this: what “New You” resolutions could you put into place? Is it time to quit that job you hate? To end an unhealthy friendship? To give up smoking? To get fit? To travel the world? Pressing the refresh button on life will make you a more interesting, positive and attractive person… what’s not to love about that?
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EliteSingles editorial, June 2014