Christian blogger Rebecca Vandemark (33), who says that “my partner’s faith is the most important aspect when considering who I date,” thinks that part of the complexity of Christian dating is age, saying that the “church is not equipped to handle singles over the age of twenty-five.”2 Christian author Carrie Lloyd (34) agrees, adding that gender can also come into play. She says “not every Christian may have access to a healthy community of single Christians. There appears to be more men to women in the ratio of singles so there can be a sense of competition or futility in pursuing dating in the church.'' But, says Carrie, all is not lost. In fact, ''we can take the matter into our own hands.”3
Taking the search for love online
One powerful way to do this is to head online to find a suitable partner. Indeed, many Irish Christians are now turning to the internet to find a long-term, spiritually-connected mate. In the words of Jenell Paris, social anthropologist at Messiah College; “Christians should look online for dates…because that’s where the people are!”5
Truly, online dating for Christians does make sense. Not only does the creation of a personalised profile allow a chance to be upfront about the importance of God in one’s life, various matching systems mean that singles are free to actively seek someone who has similar priorities. This means that those you do meet will already be singing from the same hymn-sheet: wonderful news for those who wish to live a Godly life and thus don't want to bother with those who are less active. After all, as many spiritually-minded Irish singles could tell you, there is a big difference between being a 'cultural' Christian and actually being a follower of Christ.